?

Log in

No account? Create an account
The exodus of friends continues . . . - Persephone Yavanna the Entwife

> Recent Entries
> Archive
> Friends
> Profile
> The UnCoven of the Solitaries

Persephone's Other Blogs
Persephone's DeadJournal
Diary of a Gardening Goddess
Notes from the Underworld
Leaves from the Tree (on LJ)
Leaves from the Tree (on IJ)
Persephone's Dreamwidth Journal
Persephone's Other Pages
Persephone's MySpace Page
Persephone's Tribe Page
Join the UnDead
Visit my dominion
Visit my Aridor estate
Find out what I like to listen to
Persephone's Wish List
Persephone's Favorite Videos
Persephone's Tweets on Twitter
Persephone's Grove in Second Life

October 19th, 2005


Previous Entry Share Next Entry
12:05 am - The exodus of friends continues . . .


diavola restroom


One of the side effects of being Evil Incarnate . . .

~~ sighs ~~

~~ twirls her pointy tail ~~

~~ sings Voltaire's "When You're Evil" to cheer herself up ~~

~~ twirls her pointy tail some more ~~

~~ starts to read "Pariah-hood for Dummies" ~~
Current Mood: sadresigned
Current Music: "When You're Evil" by Voltaire

(35 seeds eaten | Eat a pomegranate)

Comments:


[User Picture]
From:mowglikat
Date:October 20th, 2005 12:02 am (UTC)

Re: attempting to be a voice of reason...

(Link)
This one is going to be a bit painful. Don't read until you're ready for it...I can't mince words on this, or it isn't fair.

I feel as though the one I love so deeply has abandoned me in favor of someone else -- someone newer and shinier. There no longer is space in his life for me -- I have been replaced. When there is time for someone else, but not for me, the message I receive from that is that I am no longer wanted or cared for, that I am no longer important to him. And that message hurts me very much and very deeply.

'seph....really....You do realize you are talking about someone that was (and is) already in a committed relationship with someone else....right? Someone that was in that relationship when you stepped in? Someone that, by very definition, already was more important than you when you got involved? The fact that you could even exist as a possiblity had to be o.k.'d by the third party...to believe you started out on even footing is ridiculous.

You cannot be replaced when you didn't have a space to begin with. There was someone else there already, 'seph.
[User Picture]
From:theentwife
Date:October 20th, 2005 12:50 am (UTC)

Re: attempting to be a voice of reason...

(Link)
You appear to be misunderstanding me here.

This issue was NOT about the primary. It was about being pushed aside as a secondary by someone else. That there was time for her but none for me was the problem.


Persephone
[User Picture]
From:theentwife
Date:October 20th, 2005 03:12 am (UTC)

Re: attempting to be a voice of reason...

(Link)
The fact that you could even exist as a possiblity had to be o.k.'d by the third party...to believe you started out on even footing is ridiculous.

You're forgetting that he and I were involved long before his current primary was his girlfriend. She's the third girlfriend he's been involved with since I've been around. I would only agree to spend time with him when he was not with someone else. (I was involved at the time in an on-again, off-again relationship that I was trying to salvage as best I could.)

He chased me for years. Years and years. Then last summer I agreed to share him with his current primary after I was told they had decided to "open up" the relationship. Because he told me he loved me and had shown it by chasing me year after year after year -- persistently.

The current primary is the new kid on the block here -- not me.


Persephone
[User Picture]
From:mowglikat
Date:October 20th, 2005 12:17 pm (UTC)

Re: attempting to be a voice of reason...

(Link)
You're forgetting that he and I were involved long before his current primary was his girlfriend. She's the third girlfriend he's been involved with since I've been around.

and you're forgetting that he never made any sort of a commitment to you. That regardless of how long you've known a person that doesn't obligate them to you in any way to feel anything.

Oh my god 'seph, you have totally stepped into the realm of the surreal.
The fact that you can't/won't see that is really not normal. You really need to speak to someone professional. I give up.
[User Picture]
From:theentwife
Date:October 20th, 2005 07:48 pm (UTC)

Re: attempting to be a voice of reason...

(Link)
and you're forgetting that he never made any sort of a commitment to you.

No -- I never made the commitment to him. I kept on pushing him away. I was trying to make something work with someone else. And I didn't want to make a commitment to him while I was involved with someone else -- that wouldn't have been fair to me. So he became involved with others. I wasn't available to him. My bad.

Oh my god 'seph, you have totally stepped into the realm of the surreal.
The fact that you can't/won't see that is really not normal. You really need to speak to someone professional. I give up.


I don't think I'm being surreal -- although you do.

It's OK -- this was a complicated messy situation that evolved over most of a decade. You've only known me since his current primary has been in the picture.

If you'd known me earlier, maybe you'd have a different opinion.


Persephone

> Go to Top
LiveJournal.com