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October 19th, 2005


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12:05 am - The exodus of friends continues . . .


diavola restroom


One of the side effects of being Evil Incarnate . . .

~~ sighs ~~

~~ twirls her pointy tail ~~

~~ sings Voltaire's "When You're Evil" to cheer herself up ~~

~~ twirls her pointy tail some more ~~

~~ starts to read "Pariah-hood for Dummies" ~~
Current Mood: sadresigned
Current Music: "When You're Evil" by Voltaire

(35 seeds eaten | Eat a pomegranate)

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From:mowglikat
Date:October 19th, 2005 11:35 pm (UTC)

Re: attempting to be a voice of reason...

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Like you, this will take a couple of posts to reply to:

In this comment, I am referred to as someone who prefers to "play the victim" -- I found this term to be dismissive, as though I were playing some kind of mind game. I am not. I feel that I have a legitimate grievance that is not being heard. Using the term "play the victim" makes me receive the message that the person making that comment considers that my grievance is not valid and that what I say will be ignored.

That response is not to attack you...it is to console her, because she was explaining how she apologized and she was attacked for it. That is a true statement...she apologized, and she was attacked for it. Because of THAT you lose validity...it makes it appear as if there is nothing that will console you, you will not hear other opinions than your own. You become unapproachable by your response, and normal functional healthy people will not hunt down another human being and force healing on them. You choose not to resolve peacefully.

That was your choice. It has consequence.
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From:theentwife
Date:October 20th, 2005 01:15 am (UTC)

Re: attempting to be a voice of reason...

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That response is not to attack you...it is to console her, because she was explaining how she apologized and she was attacked for it.

It didn't seem that way to me, but I will admit that it can be interpreted that way as well.

As to the apology mentioned, please see my comment above. What was written to me did not come across as a genuine apology -- merely an expression of regret for the situation. To me, that expression of regret, phrased in the manner it was, was not an apology -- although apparently others saw it as such.

it makes it appear as if there is nothing that will console you, you will not hear other opinions than your own.

Not true. I will hear opinions other than my own -- even if I disagree with them -- but I also want the holders of those other opinions to listen to mine -- with the same degree of respect that they expect me to listen to theirs. When that doesn't occur, I get upset at the lack of reciprocity. They need not agree with me, but I feel that they should listen. To me, that is fair.

You choose not to resolve peacefully.

I'm really not sure that resolution is possible here -- it would be nice if it were! I'm willing -- not sure if others are though . . .


Persephone


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